Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Reader Feedback

Just as I am struggling to come up with a balance in the midst of this major paradigm shift that the Lord has initiated and am tempted to hang up the writing career, I receive feedback from a reader of my books on burden bearing/high sensitivity. This gentleman was so helped--these kinds of letters keep me encouraged to wrestle on with this calling of the Lord to write. It goes a long way to quench the desire to just give it all up and knit!

Here it is: 
The Mystery of Spiritual Sensitivity

I was blessed when I was asked to review this book and give a testimonial of sorts.  Its impact on me has been awesome and continues to have its impact on me.  It amazes me how Jesus asked one of His sisters to write a book many years ago.  Being obedient the book is written.   And today it has literally saved my life many years later.  This is a book that was written from the heart and not the intellect.  It expresses the heart of the one who wrote it and the One who inspired it.  The difference between a testimony and a teaching is that teaching imparts knowledge which is stored and processed in the intellect.  A testimony, on the other hand, imparts the Life of Christ.  The book “The Mystery of Spiritual Sensitivity” is such a book that ministers the Life of Christ and isn’t an intellectual description of real events.

In order to understand the impact that this book had on me you must have some understanding of where I was at when the Lord directed me to this book.  I am sixty years old. My entire life up to this point was nothing but suffering.  I don’t remember any good thing ever happening to me. I lost my childhood to traumatic amnesia.  I had the Job experience.  I didn’t just have a series of bad hair days.  Like Job I lost everything.  A year ago my wife died after a long illness.  My loss was the Lords gain. Having been married to her for 30 years it was quite devastating.  In the devastation, I died too.  Everything that held my life together was gone, including my religious beliefs.  It appeared to me that God had committed first degree murder.  Who did He murder? Me!  I died to self but it appeared as though God took it upon his self to deal with “me” without my consent.  I no longer had a reason to live.  After the initial shock of my wife’s death started to subside I realized that now I was free to live for God.   It is in this context that Lord directed me to this book. 

The first thing that impacted in reading this book was how graphically it described my suffering.  It also pointed to the cause.  Empathy as it relates to burden bearing.  I was responding to these feelings that weren’t my own just as if they were mine.   The Lord was in the midst of it and large pieces of the picture of my life fell into place perfectly.  I finally understood what happened and why!!  This one thing is priceless!  For the first time in my life I stopped running away from my emotions.  The books also pointed out the right way to deal with these feelings.  I have heard it a thousand time cast your burdens to Jesus.  Now I understood what that meant.   I have learned that even though the context in the book is burden bearing, I take all my feelings to the Lord now and that I’m not supposed to hold on to those feelings in the first place.

Another thing I discovered in this book was that no matter what the damage that was done, the Lord can bring healing.  It also mentioned the “enemy of my soul tried to remove anything that would indicate who I was” (paraphrase).  The first thing the Lord healed was the murder charge I laid on Him after my wife died.  I would not have accepted the evidence that the Lord provided of His innocence if it had not been for what I read in this book. No matter what the damage the Lord can bring healing.  Not only can He, He actually did bring healing!!  The devil came within a half inch of completely destroying me and the Lord brought healing.  It doesn’t get any worse than accusing the Lord of murder and meaning it with all my heart.  Needless to say after three months me and the Lord back together again and everything explained to my satisfaction. (it involved forgiveness and repentance J).
High sensitivity (empathy) can be a burdensome gift when we do not understand what we are experiencing. When 70-80% of the general population is not highly sensitive you can see why they look at us and wonder what is wrong with us and urge us to "not be that way!" And in anguish we reply, "If only we could!" Our central nervous system is a design capability; it is hard wiring; it is part of our DNA. To fight against it or deny it is to turn away from our God-given design. To "hate" how I am is to hate what God has declared to be good, what He delights in. On our own the best we can do is to build defense mechanisms, coping strategies. But that leads to "existing" rather than living life abundantly.

I don't know about you, but I want to live life abundantly and experience the full capabilities of my design. I want to live out the purpose for which He designed me. If God has built me as a Ferarri, I say let's learn how to drive this thing!

Buckle up!  Carol


  1. What a great testimony! Thank you for sharing.

  2. Carol, what an amazing testimony, and what an affirmation for you that you should keep on with your writing career! I, too, must add my vote because your new manuscript I am just now finishing up with, is the best book I have ever read on the subject. For me, it has shined a bright light on crooked stairways, and helped me through mazes I simply assumed was where I lived, rather than a passageway to a definite place the Lord had prepared for me.

    I have read books that I have kept visible on a shelf and gone back to from time to time to read and enjoy all over, again. But this is the first one I have ever read that -- a few pages from the end -- I wanted to start over and read, again, right now!

    I will pray that you have the necessary strength and courage to continue writing these wonderful books, so that they can reach the many "wandering and wondering" people they are meant for. Thank you so much for being obedient to "write the vision plain... so that others might see... and run with it.." And may all the good you have done for others be multiplied back to you a hundredfold, today. You are so very special, and words can not express how much I love and appreciate you!

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  3. Wow Lilly, what sweet, wonderful things to say about my wirting! Thank you!

  4. My pleasure, and they are all true.