I am thinking, if we can become aware of the phenomena we will learn to sense when we begin to drift with it. Perhaps, the sooner we spot ourselves drifting the quicker we can come back to our personal emotional base line.
To give you an idea of what I mean. My husband and I were invited to come to Canada on loan from Elijah House Ministires, USA to help train some Canadian counselors. The currency exchange was keeping some folks from receiving the help they needed. I determined that I was not going to pick up a Canadian accent since we would only be there a couple years. I worked hard to not say "eh?" But after being there only two months it slipped out effortlessly and appropriately. I finally gave up. It took too much energy to monitor every word. The Canadian "eh?" is with me still. This was not imitation or mimicking. I sort of absorb the sound and now years later thinking about friends there will bring out the accent effortlessly.
Another example is our youngest daughter, a burden bearer through and through. I always knew who she had been playing with by her behavior when she came home. For about a half hour she "was" her friend. She used her expressions, inflections and vocabulary--even the acting out behavior was the same. One particular friend had a rather "sailor-esq" vocabulary and was emotionally and verbally abusive toward her mother. We would quickly have a little sit down talk.
- Were you playing with ***?
- Were she and her mommy having an argument?
- Uh, huh.
- Well, Sweetie, you and I aren't angry with each other are we?
- Well, then you don't need to act toward me like your friend does toward her mommy. In this house, we don't say mean things to each other. We don't use those kinds of words. They just are not appropriate. I know *** says those things, but our family doesn't. How about we pray for her and her mommy and ask Jesus to help their home become more peaceful and happy.
Like a house, our identity needs a "true" foundation. A house that is a few degrees off plumb at the foundation will be several degrees off at the roofline. The walls of our house will not be straight up and down--the house will lean. They will not be as sturdy or dependable in a storm as straight walls are. Our self-image can also become skewed when we are given a picture of ourselves which is not true; which prevents us from living life with joy and confidence. Life can batter and then we crumble because we are not as "study" as we might otherwise be.
In the next few blogs I want to share some of how our identity is formed with an eye to identifying what is either missing or in need of repair. Share with us, if you will, ways you see yourself morphing into either people or your environment.